A SEAMAN’S WIFE SPEAKS UP
i won’t trade this man for the world!
I am a seamans wife. I have been since I was married. My family is not the ideal family, if ur idea of such is that the members living together in one roof because my husband works overseas. There were those 3 mos. that he stay with me and our daugther. It was his vacation. Those 3 mos. are full of laughter, we injoy each other company.But then, so sad to say that he needs to work back far from us again. Of course we have our needs. I am not a materialistic person. I am content w/ what life in my platter. But i need to understand the fact that he needs to work for our future.
What irks me most is the idea running around when a spouse (speacially the male) works far, the one left behind, plays fire w/ someone else. To hell to those pea brained individuals and their silly thoughts! But of course, other seaman wives who are so proudly flaunting their clandistine affairs & infidelity do not help me in any ways. It would have been nice if they did not get married in the first place…just ran around & had sex with all the men they fancied. They have made my life more difficult because people already have this notion that every seamans wife does the same thing. And thats UNFAIR! Unfair because there are still wives who value thier families more than what lies between thier legs. And wether you believe me or not (it won’t make any difference if you won’t). I am this kind of wife. I might be loyal to a fault but this is what I am. This is what my values tell me. Why? It is constant togetherness an assurance of loyalty and fidelity in spouses? I guess not. Because I have also observed husbands & wives who are living with each other having clandistine extramarital relationships. They are supposeldly living on the same roof, but are driven by ambitions that draw them farther apart. The distance between my husbad & me is just physical. We are bound by something stronger. No, I wont call it love because the idea of love ever conquering evrything is for teenagers only. But what my husband and I share that keep us bonded even with seas between are far deeper than mere words to express. If there is word deeper than love then maybe that was the rigth word to say.
And with this didstance between us, I have been able to grow personally. I have been able to explore a side of my personality w/c I never know existed. In short, physical distance has made me realize my worth as a person & doing so, I have become more open accepting my husband for what he is and the kind of job he had. Some idiot may think may ask if I dont have sexual appetite. Of course, I have. Hello!?… I am not a stone. But let me ask you in return. Is coitus the only way to do it? I guess not. And i am not reffering to the foolish self-made acts you are thinking of. I am reffering to more productive things like having a hobby, a new sport, a new computer game, a new book or anything. Blogging & surfing the net are just the things that has made my life alone worthwhile aside from taking care om my little girl, because this is the only social life I have. I am not fond of night life & parties & everything. I am a homebody who choose to spend quit evenings w/ my family & my daugther & blogging my heart off.
Being a mom, I have certian ethical standard to meet. I am my daugther role model & infidelity on my part could influence my daugther negatively. Aside from this fact moms has a lot of works to do. And even if I have all the time & chances in the whole world for fooling around, I am not foolish to jump into the situation w/c can have me burned.
Well, well….my husband may be far away but communication is getting more & more advance these days. We can make faces w/ each other through YM & ooVoo, we can laugh & joke w/ each other through text message & keep ouselves updated w/ pictures through Friensdter. And what more could I ask for in my husband possesses? He does not have any qualms about doing the dishes, the cooking, the laundry & all those girly chores. When our daugther cry at night, he doesn’t have complaints about me waking him up in the middle of the night to change diaper or prepare the milk. Some husband. out there won’t do it because they would argue that it is the women’s job. My husband is the provider of the family, a good provider but he doesn’t mind helping around the house. In fact, when he comes home, he makes me feel like a queen. If you had a husband like mine, would you ignore those sweet things he does & play games w/ someone for “dick” only? Well, the choice is yours, really….but me I won’t do it. Have even smacked the face of a certain man who tried to make innuendos w/c i didn’t like.
If some women out there feel elated & proud for being courted even when they are married, I am not like them when men drop hints of being interested, I feel INSULTED! Don’t ask me why. I just feel that way because I am not born to be a philanderer I am not an insecure fool.
